Nearly one year ago I sat down with my future husband Ryan for an afternoon at the bench. Together we spent a few hours carving what would become our wedding bands. Each was a token from one to the other, created with love, care, and a promise to stand the test of time.
Ryan was admittedly apprehensive about creating a ring from scratch. While he’s seen my projects evolve over the years, this was his first hands-on experience creating a piece of jewelry. I walked him through each step: he sawed off the slices of wax, filed them down, and carefully carved it into its final shape. After a few trials, a few discarded bands, and far less time than we expected—Ryan turned out a darling half round band.
He described the process of creating the ring as “honest” and “simple” as compared to the digital media he’s fluent in. Each stroke with the blade was impacting something I would wear the rest of my life. That carried a special emotional weight. By gaining a feel for my craft, he felt a closer understanding of my interest and passion.
For Ryan I carved a 5mm wide faceted band with a comfort fit interior. While I’ve created many wedding bands over the years, nothing was quite like watching him slip it on for the first time.
The finished rings were cast in platinum, adorned with diamonds, and exchanged on May 25th, 2013.
I’m not one to declare resolutions at the start of each new year, but in December of 2012 I found myself scribbling in an old green-papered notebook the elements of my life in need of change. At the time things were tilting towards chaotic. I was stretched too thin between an overly-ambitious day job and devoting as much TLC as I could to my fledgeling business. The countdown for our wedding day had just dipped below 6 months. I was clamoring for a roadmap to guide me through the coming months.
This list was a hefty one. It ran the gamut of things I needed to do (“quit day job”), wanted to do (“write more emails to friends and family just because“) and the things I owed it to myself to make time for (“attend 14 week business planning course at Renaissance Entrepreneurship Center”). Some items were very personal. Some touched on my desire to become a happier, healthier person as well as a devoted future wife. Other pledges promised myself more time off and creative freedom. I poured my heart onto the pages and found myself equally overwhelmed and excited at the possibility of completing it.
A month ago I revisited the list and discovered there was still work to do. As easily as old goals were checked off, a fresh one eagerly appeared. Things were shifting, evolving, moving forward. There will always be work to do. My list, it seems, was never the sum of it’s singular resolutions. Instead it was a promise to find momentum and to do everything I could to keep it rolling.
From the bottom of my heart, I thank you all for this wonderful year. I wish each of you the strength to achieve your own momentum in 2014.
[Kauai’s Na Pali Coast, June 2013]